Safety in Numbers

With the latest developments in the Craigslist killer case in Boston, I believe a safety reminder is in order.

Ladies, I shouldn't have to tell you that your first meeting with a man should NEVER take place at his home. Not only because the situation is completely unsafe but also because a man who intends to develop a relationship with you does not take you home before he takes you out. Meet in a public place. There is safety in numbers.

Here are some other safety tips for online daters, courtesy of Match.com:

DO tell a friend.Tell at least one friend or family member you are meeting, where you are going and when you expect to return. Let your date know the meeting is not a secret.
Tip: Contact your friend before and after the date or ask your friend to contact you at a predetermined time.

DO stay sober.Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could impair your ability to make good decisions and may put you at risk.
Tip: Stick to nonalcoholic drinks when meeting someone for the first time.

DON'T leave home without your mobile phone.If you have a mobile phone, take it with you on dates. Most cell phones can be used to call 911.
Tip: Make sure 911 services are available in your area. If not, know your emergency number.

DON'T ask the other person to pick you up.Get yourself to and from the date, even if you have to have a friend drive you or take a taxi.

DON'T leave personal belongings (purses, wallets) or drinks unattended.Don't risk having your personal information stolen. The same goes for your drink — don't risk having it tampered with.
Tip: If you must leave your drink unattended to go to the restroom, order another when you return.

DON'T succumb to the temptation to take first dates to your home (or to go to his/her home). Stay in a public place, even if you are pressured. If you feel pressured, end the meeting and leave at once.
Tip: If you are followed to where you parked your car, stop and hail a taxi or go into another public place to use the telephone and phone a friend. Come back later with your friend to get your car.