Bob from O'Fallon closed communication with me today. Quite frankly, I was relieved. Bob and I were not a good match.
So it's onto the 9 guys named Steve or Steven or Stephen... And the 12 guys named Mike or Michael... And the 2 Jimmys, 4 Jeffs and 9 Johns or Jons...
Every day, about six new names show up in my mailbox. Six more possibilities.. Six more opportunities to meet the man of my dreams, to find true love... While it's overwhelming, it is fun reading and learning about all of these people. Some take so much time to give a fair picture of their lives and their desires. Others give one word answers and neglect to post a picture. The effort speaks volumes about the heart. And the questions they ask provides insight to their pasts. It's fascinating even when it's frustrating.
So back to Steve and Mike and Jimmy and sifting through goodbyes and hellos and more possibilities.
October 25, 2008
October 15, 2008
It's up to me
If I am going to find someone to spend the rest of my life with, I guess it's going to be completely up to me. It's amazing to me that my friends and coworkers think I am fantastic only to the point of setting me up on a date.
Most people have the excuse that they don't know anyone who is single. But I'm not buying that. We are all surrounded by single people. They are out there. I KNOW they are. There are millions of single guys registered on online dating sites all over the internet. So they are out there. It just takes effort to find them. Maybe he's a friend of a friend or the son of your neighbor or the guy who fixes your best friend's car.
I get all of this great advice from married friends. Hang in there. He's out there, just be patient. Don't give up. And that's good and fine. But if my friends and family want me to find this piece of happiness and badly as I do, then people need to start talking me up out there.
The flip side is that people are probably afraid to fix me up. Or they just don't want to. And that's good and fine too. But if that's the case, people need to stop asking me when I'm going to get married or if I have anyone special in my life. And they need to stop offering sage advice. I haven't had a date in almost a year.
What if I am supposed to me him through YOU?
Most people have the excuse that they don't know anyone who is single. But I'm not buying that. We are all surrounded by single people. They are out there. I KNOW they are. There are millions of single guys registered on online dating sites all over the internet. So they are out there. It just takes effort to find them. Maybe he's a friend of a friend or the son of your neighbor or the guy who fixes your best friend's car.
I get all of this great advice from married friends. Hang in there. He's out there, just be patient. Don't give up. And that's good and fine. But if my friends and family want me to find this piece of happiness and badly as I do, then people need to start talking me up out there.
The flip side is that people are probably afraid to fix me up. Or they just don't want to. And that's good and fine too. But if that's the case, people need to stop asking me when I'm going to get married or if I have anyone special in my life. And they need to stop offering sage advice. I haven't had a date in almost a year.
What if I am supposed to me him through YOU?
And the beat goes on...
So the process continues... Slowly. But it continues.
I've registered for another dating site called OK CUPID. I am reserving judgement for a while. But my frustrations with eHarmony continue. On a daily basis I have about 145 matches in my in-box. I have initiated communications with 17 of them. Getting to the point where you can communicate directly with a match takes so long. It's an arduous process that I am not sure is worth the time, honestly. But I am going to stick with it and put the needed effort into it.
As for the fixing up, I have one friend who frequently finds a guy for me. God love her. I have yet to go on any dates with any of them but sometimes it is the thought that counts. And another friend of mine introduced me to a friend of hers. We hung out twice but, there was no chemistry on my side.
That's the update at this point! Hopefully, life will start to get a little more exciting soon.
I've registered for another dating site called OK CUPID. I am reserving judgement for a while. But my frustrations with eHarmony continue. On a daily basis I have about 145 matches in my in-box. I have initiated communications with 17 of them. Getting to the point where you can communicate directly with a match takes so long. It's an arduous process that I am not sure is worth the time, honestly. But I am going to stick with it and put the needed effort into it.
As for the fixing up, I have one friend who frequently finds a guy for me. God love her. I have yet to go on any dates with any of them but sometimes it is the thought that counts. And another friend of mine introduced me to a friend of hers. We hung out twice but, there was no chemistry on my side.
That's the update at this point! Hopefully, life will start to get a little more exciting soon.
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